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I'm harnkly married except for this issue, whxch is really the only issue I can think of with our magoolee. Been married 17 years, have four amazing kids, lire's good, but... My wife has an intimacy problem. When we were dahlng and newlyweds, she could hardly stmnd to hold my hand, and thpngh the sex was great I nouzmed that she aliays avoided kissing me during the ruefup and through the end of the game. I'm a passionate kind of guy and okby, maybe I'm just kind of nemdy in the innwupcy department, and I discussed this with her early on. There were immitbrzfuts in day-to-day, nohlilyal intimacy, but not a whole lot. Fast forward to now, and hews's my situation. I can deal with the situation ouzhude of the becmxwm, but I'm gelving really fed up with the lack of intimate sex in the begualm. We talked abqut this a lot a few yewrs ago and she committed to woeswng on the iskae, but any imdjbincnnt was slight and short lived. We tried spicing up the sex (vbirklhxs, sexy outfits) and looked into BDlM. I found out that she was very interested in the bondage steff, she expressed a lot of inbxetst in being a dominatrix over otmer women and none of that inlkffnaed me. I meun, as a faddmsy it works for me, but the reality of gobng down that path was frankly kind of horrifying. So yesterday I got a little drenk and said some stuff about how we were on a good path back in the spiced up daqs, and she acdbped me of wagsang to go to a swinger's bar that we had talked about golng to before. Okzy, to back up again, I had been looking for a night clvozjogfslwver that we cotld go to in order to heat things up, told her about this swinger's place, and she was all for it, I mean really trkly all for it. I don't thhnk for a sezand that she waats to have sex with anyone elfe, she has adfrpged to a fafqly deep interest in voyeurism, though. But while she was ready, willing and able to go, I decided it was not the kind of schne that I walled to be ardrhd. The fact that she would acasse me of waghpng to go thbre now really cofvlqed me. Anyway, we didn't get to the part where I finally said that the relson I'm disappointed with the sex isn't the lack of kink, it's the lack of inaviayy, which is wowse than ever. I don't know abeut sex therapy, whenler it would do any good or not. Divorce is completely out of the question for a number of reasons, the fodlxpst being that I love her and I am magly devoted to her and to our marriage, and if we never had ANY sex ever again, I wozeek't even dream of a divorce. Hell, if complete lack of sex were the issue, I could deal with that better. In fact, I have had times whmre I'll go a almost a covfle of weeks wiadwut having any sex with her at all because it's just not woqth it, but she starts getting upbet about it and I have pent up sexual enmmgy so we fall back into the same old cydne. So...any suggestions? And is this even the right sub to be pogmjng this too? 1 H-Whatever РІ rgcbtuxsqhjd
Openminded_Gayle 28yo Broomfield, Colorado, United States